Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Get a Life
Met someone from college today. She was the president of our organization and she was like a big sister to me back then. She was surprised to see me grow up. Hello!?! As if i was really that teenie meenie little girl back then. Maybe i gained a little weight alright and on the contrary, it's even a compliment for me. She has the same bubbly personality. She still talked and asked questions at a speed i couldnt fathom. Twas like she delivered 5 paragraphs already and i only responded with a "yes."
Bubbly: "Are you married?"
Me: "Uhmmm..." (in my mind, i was thinking, not in the immediate future.)
Bubbly: "With boyfriend?"
Me: "Uh???" (not in my wildest dream for the mean time.)
Bubbly: "Why? What's the matter?"
Bubbly: "What priorities?"
Me: "Career? Further studies?"
Bubbly: "Oh. You're done with that. It's now time that you'll think about yourself."
Then, there's this 3-second pause then "the end."
She was in hurry that she have to leave soon. After our goodbyes, she left me in wonder. What was she trying to tell me? "I must think about myself?" Goodness! Was it because i'm still unattached? I really cant get her point there. It doesnt mean that since i am unattached, i dont think about myself. Are my plans of further trainings not a selfish act? I'm thinking about my future, about myself when i planned this. Isnt it not having someone tagging on my line a selfish act too? I dont want to care for anyone nor to divide my time with someone as of this time. I wanted my time to be mine so that i could plan whatever it is that i wanted to do with my life. Am i not thinking about myself then?
I realized that people have different priorities in life. She said it in good faith but im thinking that maybe her priorities are different from mine. She too was a medical student. Several times though, she failed in the board exam. At present, she's married and now a housewife. She might be prioritizing family life more than her own career that she's already happy with what she is right now. I on the other hand kept on studying and training. Career-driven at my own discretion. Grabbing whatever opportunity there is for self-growth. If there's really a place for lovelife in my priorities, then maybe it occupies the backseat.
In short, you can never tell those successful people who are unattached to think about themselves first. Fact is, like me, they have been thinking about themselves all along. For me, being in a relationship isnt equivalent to thinking about one's own welfare. You may have someone with you to share your life with but this is also equivalent to having a responsibility over this someone. But if she's referring about the remote future when ill be old and demented, then i guess this will be the time that ill be thinking of myself by having someone to share my dementia with.hehe As for now, I am selfish enough not to be in a relationship. Enjoying the prime of my life, my career is still what im prioritizing. If this is where i will be fulfilled and happy, then who disagrees that being single is not an act of selfishness?
This is my life. Sometimes other people just dont have a life of their own that they could see and scrutinize other people. The problem however is that they usually pick on single ones (that includes me) thinking that these people arent happy with their own lives. If ill once again hear this "think about yourself" line the next time, i might not be able to control myself that i could tell him/her to "Get a life!"